April 01, 2009

Who Knows and How Open

Probably during my six years as a hotwife most that have played with me tend to pop those questions. It was also something Rock and I discussed in depth and studied with much attention when we stared down this path. 

We thought originally that if something likes this comes up to be basically open about it and describe an open marriage. But we did not like that for two reasons. I did not like it because if it became so wide known then situations could come up in terms of people I am not interested in thinking they could hit on me or even worse people getting upset at one or both of us if I did not fuck them. Rock did not like this because a lot of his enjoyment is the thrill of the looks, the behind the back talk and most important the extra thrill or rendering some of the looks and behind his back talk of me stepping out on him. So for example a couple of months ago we were at a party and I had done the host months ago in a really fun pretty raunchy great time. Anyway, most of the evening his brother who obviously had heard the details of this spent all of his time trying to flirt with me while trying to stay clear of my husband. Rock just loved this and if we were just out with being in an open marriage it might not have things like this or to the degree.

We do not flaunt this aspect but we also do not hide it as well. Except for rare occasions would you see me dressed in a very inappropriate manner when out in the public. Sexy and maybe with the ability to push it if the opportunity arises, sure but I am not a walking billboard of I am a total cheap slut please hit on me. Now if you were to visit me at home outside of the coldest months you would find me barely dressed max out your first reaction was I am a total slut and if that is all you can think about when seeing me I was successful. 

In general though people like to be entertained by gossip and titillation and pretty much in the end do not give a crap about how other people live. When either one of us has been cornered in a “do you know what Crystal is doing” or “how can you do this to your husband” type of way we go with the open marriage excuse. But that happens very rarely as if you are a good friend of Rock then you know already and Rock has offered them to fuck me and might have fucked me a long time ago if he thought they would be into that kind of thing.

Basically in general I think most people that know us know I sleep around and Rock does not care. Some know I sleep around a lot and Rock loves it. Rock’s family either knows, obviously Sweetness and Lips, or has a strong idea. I would say only his Mom ever implies something and that is things like “how you go about your relationship” but we do get along really well.

The negative people tend to be mostly the women and a few male married acquaintances that probably flat out disapprove or worry I will go after their spouses. This does not affect me as my whole life history has had people look at me in a less then positive light. 

We basically practice a do not ask and do not tell policy. If those are interested they give off hints to various degrees. If those ask we give them the open marriage excuse. But mostly people let us be and for some give them some fun things to talk about and we are perfectly fine with that.


  1. Its funny how people with negative comments to make will always say something or drop a hint, where as those that do not care or are not bothered by it will often only show curiosity at most. It must be liberating that Rock is with you all the way on this!

  2. So true Petal and thankfully most do not care or are curious!

    I try to avoid overomantic type thoughts in my life but Rock and I truly happy with everythig in our life together.


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    Adultery and God's Punishment

    What are the consequences of doing adultery? Indeed, god's punishment in the life in this world and more harmful punishment in hereafter .let us to read ….

    There was a city in old Italy where its people were doing adultery and homosexuality and they were so proud with that. Also they used to draw pornographic pictures on walls in front of all people; researchers believe that art of pornography started in this dissolute city. {1}

    What was the consequence of doing that? And what was the end of those people? What is the start of their story?

    City of Pompeii is an old roman city that lived in a lot of luxury. God gave people of this city a lot of graces such as the best crops, a lot of rains and many natural resources.

    One day , people of Pompeii was celebrating god of fire day , but suddenly and without any kind of warning a volcanic eruption occurred which released a lot of lava. As a result, people tried to escape but all of them were killed immediately and the city was disappeared .also their bodies were covered with lava and these covered bodies had transferred after many years to be fossilized rocks. {2}

    A representative picture to the volcano which destroyed city of Pompeii and killed all People. Population of that city was up to 20000 person. So we have to remember god's saying: (So we seized them all of a sudden while they were unaware) (Sûrat Al-A‘râf – verse 95)

    This city was hidden till it was discovered in the 18 century .they found that people's bodies were fossilized and petrified on their last condition , which means that death came suddenly and they were not able to do anything.

    It's god's justice, in Qur'an god told us about his punishment on some people because of their sins, god says :( Do then those who devise evil plots feel secure that Allah will not sink them into the earth, or that the torment will not seize them from directions they perceive not? ,or that He may catch them in the midst of their going (in their jobs), so that there is no escape for them (from Allah's punishment)?) (Sûrat An-Nahl- verse 45-46). Indeed this verse tells us about this city and any other city might do like them. Archaeologists had found that punishment was descended on those people while they were on their daily life with no previous warning.

    So god alerts us not to do like those people or to feel safe from similar end, god says :( Did the people of the towns then feel secure against the coming of Our punishment by night while they were asleep?* Or, did the people of the towns then feel secure against the coming of Our punishment in the forenoon while they were playing? * Did they then feel secure against the Plan of Allah? None feels secure from the Plan of Allah except the people who are the losers.)(Sûrat Al-A‘râf - verse 97-99)

    Researchers had found many drawing for pornographic pictures in this city as evidence that adultery and homosexuality were in every place in the city. Also, researchers believe that people of Pompeii were doing the adultery in front of kids and all people and they were not shy of that. Also they believe that adultery was in a large scale more than today's.

    People of Pompeii believed in god of sex, so they used to glorify him and to draw paints to get his satisfaction. We have to mention that there is an exhibition which includes these paints and pictures but children are not allowed to watch it without a special approval. {3}

  4. Walls in some rooms in Pompeii with drawing of adultery, these drawing remained as an evidence that there is wisdom behind what happened to those people, and how much they deserve to die by this terrifying way.

    What happened to the people of this city is totally identical with the following verse, God be he blessed and exalted says :( So, when they forgot (the warning) with which they had been reminded, We opened for them the gates of every (pleasant) thing, until in the midst of their enjoyment in that which they were given, all of a sudden, We took them (in punishment), so! They were plunged into destruction with deep regrets and sorrows.* so the root of the people who did wrong was cut off. And all the praises and thanks are to Allah, the Lord of the ‘Âlamîn (mankind, jinn, and all that exists) (Sûrat Al-An’âm- verse 44-45).

    Indeed god had opened for them gates of every pleasant thing, as mentioned before such as natural resource, rains , best crops , etc….but they forgot their god and followed their instincts , so they died by this terrifying way .

    A real photo for human bodies of people of Pompeii .Their bodies was transferred to be fossilized rocks. This punishment is in this life but in the hereafter punishment is strong and last forever, god says :( And thus do We requite him who transgresses beyond bounds [i.e. commits the great sins and disobeys his Lord (Allah) and believes not in His Messengers, and His revealed Books, like this Qur’an], and believes not in the Ayât (proofs, evidence, verses, lessons, signs, revelations, etc.) of his Lord; and the torment of the Hereafter is far more severe and more lasting.) (Sûrat Tâ-Hâ- verse 127).

    Finally we have to supplicate to our god by saying :( Our Lord! Make us not a trial for the folk who are polytheists (wrong-doers) (i.e. do not make them overpower us) * "And save us by Your Mercy from the disbelieving folk.")(Sûrat Yûnus - verse 85-86){4}


    By: Abduldaem Al-Kaheel



    1. www.spiegel.de

    2. Pompeii, www.wikipedia.org

    3. www.francesfarmersrevenge.com

    4. Our brother Mohammad Lujain Alzin participated in the idea of this research may god will reward him for that work, and also reward any one who may contributes by a useful idea.


    1. Salvatore Ciro Nappo, Pompeii : Its Discovery and Preservation, www.bbc.co.uk

    2. Pompeii, www.wikipedia.org

    3. www2.pompeiisites.org