Common Question VII

Do you ever feel uncomfortable fucking men at your home when your husband Rock is there whether is in the same room or not?

No, simple, next question. Oh detail? For those who read and remember some of the things in this blog I have written about my past let us just say I have few or no personal emotional boundaries. The only boundaries I have are ones that I observe others have and have been taught but since they are basically intellectual they are basically voluntary on my part. I could literally get it doggy style by VP Biden while eating out the Pelosi in back of Obama while he was giving his state of the union address. I might not enjoy it or be aroused but I would not have trouble or feel uncomfortable except for knowing it would be bad and uncomfortable for all those watching. I know, not a pretty visual to use!

The biggest problem and totally understandable is that the men are uncomfortable. This is the biggest stumbling block to having regulars if they like what we like an ongoing fairly open booty call just as long as you come to our house.

We are not opposed, done or will not do in the future of having me meet men outside our home on a continued fashion but I have found these rarely work out for me in terms of lasting. Single men want too much of my time with a lot of girlfriend experiences. I am not opposed to this and enjoy it many times but not always or often when I am hooking up with someone regularly. I have a husband who I enjoy being social with and I am not needing a date on Saturday night.

Married men tend to be the opposite where they expect me to jump through a tiny window of convenience for them at the drop of a hat. Again understandable but I get laid by the love of my life on a daily basis and I am not out on the prowl just to get some sex but to have enough sex and I am not going to interrupt and change my life because a man got a free half hour window. Now if he has a free afternoon and wants to see how many times he can get it up that is another story!

I have found that regulars comfortable with it just being sex and can handle doing it at our home to be awesome but not easy to find. Most others that I have done more then once or twice they generally have a very small lifespan as the need or logistics make it not conducive for us through no one’s fault.

Common Question VI

Have you ever had sex in a car since you were a teenager?

I enjoy a lot of fun play in cars but have not had a lot of sexual intercourse in cars. I have a mental trigger/issue that doing something sexual in a car because it is the only place or driving someplace private to do something will not work for me.

On the other in the spur of the moment or in a lust filled way I have given many blow jobs in parking lots and other places. I have had intercourse in a car as well both parked and while going but call me boring I have a preference for comfortable surroundings when fucking.

Now Rock and I when we get bored while driving to and from someplace will get quite mischievous as idle hands are the devils playground or something like that.

But my favorite times that have to do with a car are on occasion we take weekend trips with Sweetness and Lips and do what every two couples do and the manly men sit in the front and us women sit in the back. Just us women happen to enjoy making out and masturbating each other for a large portion of the trips!

Bonus question: How well do you receive constructive criticism?

Depends if it taps into my emotions or not. If it does I can go very dark if I do not catch myself. Pretty much someone might think they have come to a knife fight and I respond with a nuclear bomb. In a fight/flight defense mechanism I do not play fair.

I have issues that can be quite severe and that includes self esteem. I am harder on myself then anyone else can be. So this becomes about a survival skill learned from childhood that is not for healthy mature adult consumption.

If it is a criticism that does not go into the emotional area I am very good at taking constructive criticism. I have a thirst to learn things and have a natural tendency to think there is a better way or what I have done someone can do it better.

Common Question V

As an adult, the youngest and oldest you have had sexual relations with?

Oldest was an eighty-one year old I gave a blow job to. I will not go into the situation as I will save that for a later time but it was fairly quick and just fine thank you. The oldest I have had intercourse with I do not know as I did not ask for his age but he had to be in his late sixties to early seventies by my guess. I was twenty at the time and it was ok but nothing great or bad.

Youngest not that big of a deal yet with my age, I am going type that while I still can, but when I was twenty-two I was given to an excited eighteen year old birthday boy for a very enjoyable twelve hours of fun as I helped him out with his virginity. Even as a teenager I always enjoyed helping boys with this very much and this was very much fun and cool. I do not think the boy/man had even gotten to first base before me!

Common Question IV

Do you do men that go behind the back of their wives?

In general I operate under the principle of if I do not want other people telling me what to do and therefore I will not do that and I am not the morality police from some agreed upon standard that I am responsible for another’s action.

I have no problem in fucking married guys. I only will not have a guy become a regular if he is married and his wife does not know and I will not put full force effort on a married guy if I flirt and he does not respond or stops when his conscious gets to him.

If you are looking for some type of justifications I will throw out some:

1) I would much rather be the outlet of a sexually deprived or just cannot keep it in his pants man then if he takes out his frustrations on a child. I was a foster child that experienced this first hand of a husband or wife not getting any from their spouse turning to the closet available option.

2) In my years as a stripper most men do not come to a club alone because they just like looking at nude young women or are “losers”. Most come because they are lonely and their spouses do not treat them like they are sexually desirable and important to them and will pay for the illusion of being smiled at and treated like the dancer likes them and wants to do something sexual to them.

3) Most people have affairs because something is missing and has been missing in their relationship for awhile. Whether their marriage is for all practical purposes over or they are happy except for their sexual needs not being taken care of either way the damage has been done that if it blows up on the person it is often just the catalyst and not the reason for the marriage going under.

In the end I am who I am and will be attracted to who I am attracted. I do not go out and seek married men over others but also I will not discriminate just based on that one reason. I offer up one piece of advice to spouses who do not want their other to cheat on them and that is to keep them well fucked!

Common Question III

How did you and your husband get started in the Hotwife life?

A crazy chick puts a personal ad about wanting to be in a long term relationship where sexual objectification could be maxed out in a healthy and realistic way. I imagined a life of being mostly thought as first a sex toy for my husband. I always loved movies where it was usually some criminal who would be talking business with someone with scantly clad woman(en) in the background and with a look or snap of a finger she comes over and does something blatantly sexual without any other thought in the world as that is her only reason for being there.

Rock put in an ad wanting a woman who would ooze sex and strive to be some super slut. He imagined a woman who he could share the world with sexually and make it the core of their relationship.

He wrote me, I read his ad and as he wrote it was obvious we had to learn more about each other and the rest is a wonderful seven plus years.

Common Question II

Why do you and Rock love you being a Hot Wife and making an effort to sexually objectify you?

There are many reasons for both of us. Mine are I enjoy sex immensely and have few other things in my life, especially in my past, where I had any enjoyment so sex became dominant in my brain to the point of sexual compulsion. I do get self esteem boosts when people sexually objectify me and especially when they fuck me. It just a quick fix and I now know is fake but I also know I enjoy it and I know it does not take away from something else. In other words, being objectified does not make me lose IQ points.

So I like sex, I like looking and feeling sexy and I like others to view me that way. We all like others to view us a good light for things we like or identify with so why cannot I enjoy it in this area?

The last thing I like being this way is I think it is a simpler life for me. I know what boys and some girls want and I am more then willing to give them it. I have control of this compared to so much other junk in life in which I so not or will never have.

Now why Rock is practically insatiable in wanting people to fuck his wife’s brains out probably has several reasons as well.

Rock is a functioning sex obsessed man. In other words he can live a multi-faceted life while always having sex on the brain. In his private and free time he would like to have this out in the open instead of some relationship where he has to keep it in his head. He does not want to warm me up every time he wants something sexual. He does not want his view of my body to be of flannel nightgowns and baggy shorts or sweats. He wants a wife who will be dressed for his visual enjoyment, to not have a problem watching TV with his hands all over her day in and day out.

Rock favorite type of sex is rough and degrading type and not all soft and romantic candles and softness. There are probably only so many of us women that can get into that and I think for most of us we need to be primed by getting treated a certain way that being objectified and shared can do.

Rock just is aroused by seeing me get sexually objectified and fucked by others.

It is an over reaction from his first marriage that was to his childhood sweetheart who in the end hated sex. Rock went the opposite way and found his next spouse to be one that was willing to bathe in sex. I thank Lips for giving him such a perfect example of being able to get what he wanted!

Common Question I

What is expected of me in terms of picking up men to fuck?

It is not a simple question because of my issues with sexual compulsion. I plan on writing about that in a more serious entry soon so I will not go into that area with this one but I do have one big boundary to help deal with my sex compulsion. It is when I am down or in a bad mind frame that I intentionally avoid hooking up with anyone outside a regular. I have this boundary because that is when I am weakest and more prone to do really stupid shit because I lose control.

But basically it is what I have written and will write a lot. I am 24/7/365 sex toy. One of my vows to Rock was that my mind will always be open to the possibility of something sexual at anytime with anyone for the most part. But we do not have quotas or I go out specifically looking to get laid. So most days I go out in public and nothing significant happens outside of some flirting maybe.

Then there was a day like a month ago where I blew the furnace guy who came to fix our furnace in the morning and then spent most of the afternoon in a hotel bed with a guest speaker at a function for a group I volunteer for and was my duty to play chauffer to him. On top of that Shock showed up in the evening and there was no way Rock with all this going on was not going to fuck me a couple of times. Now that was an exhausting day!

In the end the answer is it to be natural in the context of I am a sex toy for other people’s pleasure. I think the key is I need to be open to something happening when I am out in the world but not think of it as some sort of mission anytime I am out.