I was going to write about how I go about finding men to play with. I knew I would though get sidetracked when I deal with men from online sources about what I decided to write about here.
One of my favorite blogs had what I found to be a great entry. In it she talked even though it is just a casual fun relationship she got emotional when with this person when things were just off. This has been on my mind when I was preparing to write where I find men. I am pretty much an open book and do not play games when looking which means if you have read this blog I like sex for sex and not for a lot of the extra stuff that goes into it. Often when I put up an online profile I will communicate this in a fairly direct manner and often a certain percentage of men think then answer my add means I will automatically do them which is of course not the case.
Now I know objectification. I enjoy it being done to me and was guilty of it in a bad way when my sexual compulsions were controlling me. One of the negative affects is someone like me objectifies people and despite men thinking it sounds cool, trust me men have a big problem with it. It is also quite ironic that someone enjoys being objectified has had to deal with negatively objectifying others.
But even a woman like me who likes being objectified needs more then a willing physical body. I still despise being lied to or mislead. I still want to fuck a person who I like and think is a good person and not someone who is a jerk and is scummy. I may want to be objectified by the people I play with but that does not mean I want a person who objectifies everyone.
So even for a recovering sex addict that being a hotwife is for sex does not mean any warm body will do.
On a side note I have been in near daily contact with the Navy man that I wrote about here. We are trying to firm up a date for me to go see him next week. It is looking like hopefully Wednesday or Thursday. Unless he totally changes I am so hot for his cock he going to find me the easiest lay when we meet.
1 year ago